“No one wants to think about dying. But refusing to look at the documents that will determine where your money goes when you pass away will not make you live longer. It will just make sorting through everything more difficult for your heirs.”

So begins Paul Sullivan’s recent article in the New York Times, and we must admit, we couldn’t have said it better ourselves. Most people simply don’t want to deal with what they imagine will be a mountain of decisions and paperwork to create an estate plan, and they especially don’t want to think about their own death.  It’s not that they truly believe avoiding it will help them live forever, it’s just that they know they aren’t going to die tomorrow or next week, so estate planning really isn’t a high priority… yet.

It’s time now for some straight talk.  Any one of us—including you—could die tomorrow.  Or next week.  You could be in a car accident, your plane could crash, or you could simply be in the wrong place at the wrong time. If and when that occurs, what will happen to your spouse and children?

There are two answers to that question:

1. If you have no planning in place your assets will likely go through a lengthy and expensive probate process, losing some value in the process, eventually to be divided amongst your closest living relatives.  If you are married your spouse may have to fight your parents about your wishes regarding burial and memorial. And if your spouse dies with you in that terrible car crash your children will be raised by whichever faintly qualified relative steps up to the plate—your parents?  Your in-laws? Your 23 year old sister? And if nobody steps up…
2. If you DO have planning in place your assets will transfer quickly and smoothly to the beneficiaries you’ve named, in the amounts you have specified.  If you have a spouse that person will be taken care of, while perhaps some of your estate is set aside for your children’s education, or to help them buy a home. Your children will receive their inheritance at a time of your choosing; when you feel they will be ready for the responsibility. Your parents and your spouse will know exactly how to arrange your burial and memorial, and will feel a sense of peace and closure knowing that they are following your wishes.

These are hard truths, and no one denies that they are difficult and uncomfortable to consider, but the heartache that can result from neglecting to think about these things is even more painful to imagine.

Creating an estate plan to protect your minor children is one of the most difficult—and most important—things you will ever do; this is especially true if you and your child’s other parent are separated or divorced. Relationships don’t always end amicably, but if you do have children it is definitely worthwhile to put aside your differences with your ex long enough to discuss estate planning for the sake of your kids.

There are three major things to consider when estate planning during or after a divorce:

1. Guardianship
2. Financial inheritance
3. Remarriage

Guardianship: According to the law, if you pass away guardianship passes to your child’s other biological parent; this is the case even if you had full custody (unless it is determined that the surviving parent is unfit). This is something to keep in mind when you are nominating guardians.  If you and your ex can sit down and discuss guardians together and agree on a few alternates it will make everyone (including your child) feel more secure about the future.

Financial Inheritance: Although many divorced couples may feel comfortable with their ex as guardian, most are dead set against their ex having any control over their finances. How then can you leave your estate for the benefit of your child without leaving it in the hands of your ex? The solution is to put your child’s inheritance in trust until they come of age, with a person you know and trust acting as trustee. Your trustee will have the responsibility to keep and maintain the trust, giving distributions to the guardian for the benefit of your child.  Keep in mind that your trustee and guardian will have to work together quite often, if you and your ex can agree on someone with whom you both are comfortable it will make the process much easier on your trustee, your ex, and your child.

Remarriage: When you marry there is an inevitable mingling of finances, and this is no different for a second or third marriage.  However, if you don’t make provisions for your children in your estate plan your assets will end up going entirely to your new spouse when you die, leaving your child(ren) out in the cold. This can be easily addressed in your estate plan (or your ex’s estate plan, if he or she is the one getting remarried) as long as you talk to your attorney and take action now, before it’s too late.

If you are going through or have gone through a divorce please call our office and let us help.

When it comes to estate planning there are two major vehicles for the distribution of property: A will and a trust. Both are very useful tools and can accomplish specific goals—but how do you know which one is best for your family? Which document you will need depends on a number of factors, some of which may seem completely irrelevant at first: the size of your estate, your goals for that estate, the age of your children, your marital status, your retirement account, and many, many more. But the first step to understanding which tool may be right for you is to understand what each document does.

A Will: A will is a formal declaration of your wishes.  It is a document you create to declare the extent of your privately held property (it does not cover jointly owned property) and what your wishes are for the distribution of that property.  You name an executor to carry out your wishes, and you can even include a nomination of guardian for young children in your will.   A will does not go into effect until after you die; before then it is simply a piece of paper containing your private wishes.  However, once you have passed away your will no longer remains private, it now becomes a matter of public record, available to anybody who would like to view it, and overseen by the court in a sometimes lengthy and expensive process called probate.

A Trust: A trust is a far more extensive tool than a will.  In fact, there are many different kinds of trusts, each of which may be used for specific situations.  Most trusts created for estate planning purposes are revocable living trusts (or RLTs.) An RLT is a document created not simply to distribute your property, but to own your property on your behalf, to be invested and spent for your benefit or the benefit of your named beneficiaries.  As such, a trust takes effect as soon as you sign it and your property is protected by and subjected to the trust parameters as soon as you place them in the name of your trust. There is a lot of flexibility available with a trust, and yours can be created to fit your unique situation.  Most RLTs name the trust creators as the initial trustees, nominating individuals or banks to take over as trustee when the creator becomes incapacitated or passes away.  The benefit of a trust is that when the creator passes away, property is not merely distributed and that’s the end of it; the creator can instruct the trustee to distribute the money slowly and in any number of ways, even to the extent of creating new trusts for each beneficiary.  Trusts can last for generations, as evidenced by the enduring Kennedy trusts.

Wills and trusts are necessary tools in estate planning, each one working in unique situations.  Your attorney will be able to tell you which one is best for your family.

Creating a will or trust, healthcare documents, powers of attorney, etc., can sometimes seem overwhelmingly sad and serious.  Well, the act of protecting your loved ones is very serious, but it doesn’t have to be sad.  In fact, planning your estate can sometimes be downright enjoyable!  Here are 5 ways you can enjoy planning your estate:

1. Let the process of choosing and informing your fiduciaries (the people you will trust to be your executor, your guardians, your agents) forge stronger bonds with the people you love and trust the most.  It can be the perfect excuse to spend more time with the friends and family you will be naming in your documents.
2. Make it a time to go crazy with your dreams for the future: Your own retirement, goals for your children, and plans for your grandchildren.  Have fun imagining the wonderful old-age you want—and then make it happen.
3. Take the opportunity to learn more about your past—and record that past for your children and grandchildren.  Talk to your parents and grandparents about their history and experience; then write it down—along with your own memoirs—and include it with your EP docs for your children to find.
4. As long as you’re gathering important financial information and documents, keep the momentum going and use the time to organize your important files and information.  Not only will this help you with your planning, it will make life easier for you every time tax season rolls around, and it will save your family and executor a lot of headache and heartache as well.
5. The biggest reason to enjoy planning your estate is the simplest—it has to be done and it’s the right thing to do.  When your estate plan is signed and complete it will be a weight off your shoulders because you will know you have done what is necessary to protect yourself, your family, and the people you love.

Whether or not we do it regularly, all of us know how to plan ahead: We plan for travel and vacation, we plan weddings, and we plan for natural disasters, for retirement, or what to make for dinner tomorrow night.  Why is it, then, that so few of us will create a plan to help our families and loved ones when we die?

Part of the reason may certainly be fear and discomfort.  Nobody likes to think about their own death, let alone talk about it with others; but neglecting to have this conversation now, while you are still alive, means that you are leaving the conversation for your loved ones to have later, when they are hurt and grieving.  It also means that you are unfairly asking them to guess at what your wishes may have been, and make difficult decisions that should have yours to make.

This article by Michael O’Mara lists 10 things to for your family before you die.  10 things may seem like a tall order, especially when the subject is “the great hereafter”; but it seems a whole lot easier when you consider that 7 of the things listed are generally addressed as part of your estate planning with our firm—and we can help you with the other 3 things if you so desire.

You wouldn’t leave it for your children to pack your suitcase after you’ve left on vacation—don’t leave it for them to make your difficult decisions after you’ve passed away.  Call our office to help you with your estate planning today.